#42 The Elegant Pivot Series: Developing a Spirit of Inquiry

We are finishing up a series that I've been doing with my coworker, colleague, and daughter, Jen Maneely with my book “The Elegant Pivot”. This is a book I wrote and published in 2001. We've been following the five main principles of the elegant pivot around how to assume positive intent. The fifth principle is to develop a spirit of inquiry. And if you haven’t read my book, or need a refresher on the five principles, they are:

1: Discern Signal from Noise

2: Focus on what You Want

3: Take Nothing Personally

4: Master Your Stories

5: Develop A Sense of Inquiry

And boy, did we dive in today on that. My daughter and I actually had a couple of daughter and mommy moments or mommy daughter moments, however you want to put that, where we discovered where some of our patterns come from, and what patterns have to do with asking questions.

So, we went into everything from how to ask a good question, how to not interrogate somebody, how to recognize when you're feeling vulnerable, and more.  I hope you enjoy this podcast and I hope you enjoyed this series as well with Jen Maneely.

I would love to hear what you like about this conversation. All you have to do is go to the podcast page on my website at www.lynncarnes.com and click the “send a voicemail button” on the right-hand side of the page. Super easy to do and it helps me know what to bring you in future episodes.  

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Additional Topics

  • Giving up control to get control
  • Our conditioning plays a big part in how we react when people question us
  • When something hits you, pause, assume positive intent, get curious, ask a question
  • We can allow people to explore their resistances and that allows them to solve the problem for themselves
  • Parent/Child Ego Stance
  • How people define things is important to understand for context
  • How we handle our emotions/moods is often taught
  • Focused conversations: Different types of questions
  • Four on the Floor Practice

Additional Links

The Elegant Pivot Book 

The Elegant Pivot Workbook 

Guest Contact Info:

Website: ManeelyConsulting.com 

Email: Jennifer@maneelyconsulting.com