Episode 12: Warwick Schiller, Performance Horses, On listening, presence,

Every now and then, you find someone who pierces through the noise of all the people vying for our attention with a message that is so clear and compelling, you just have to stop and listen. I found that person a few years ago in Warwick Schiller. Yes, in his videos he was talking about horses. But lots of people are on the internet talking about horses.

Warwick is different. He’s really talking about listening, presence and being. He’s sharing his personal transformation. Moreover, he’s not just talking – he’s showing and embodying something invisible that creates a change.

That’s what made me reach out to him for this conversation. Most of the conversations on this podcast are with people I know. Most of the people who invite Warwick on their podcast are people who make a living in the horse world. This conversation would be between two people from different worlds who don’t know each other.

The question going into the conversation was “where would we find the common ground?” and it did not take long. While a lot of people who listen to this podcast are in the horse world, I believe anyone who is on a journey of becoming a better version of themselves will find this conversation both deeply satisfying and perhaps challenging.

You will notice throughout that Warwick challenges himself both during the conversation and in the stories he tells. And he is super skilled at weaving lessons and themes into a meaningful narrative. Perhaps his most powerful lesson was taught to him by the horse who showed him he did not know what he was doing. With a curious mind and a commitment to listening, he discovered what a horse could teach him about himself.

In that way, this conversation is a master class in self-awareness.

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Key topics:

Just trail riding is like just jumping out of a plane – great as long as everything goes ok
What he did when everything he knew didn’t work with a new shutdown horse
Had to look outside the normal way of looking at things to solve the problem
His realization about listening instead of asking
The story of the mustang who had a random bolting problem solved by listening
How horses can read our mind
The importance of safety with horses
The catalyst that pivoted Warwick on a journey from being a trainer (through asking) to a facilitator (through listening)
The collective awareness of horses in the herd and how they communicate danger
Horses can tell if we are present or not – present is your mind is thinking about what’s going on right now
Not present could be just a mere 3 seconds from now or in the past
We are training horses to not have problematic behaviors that we are causing in the first place
Listening as a way to make the horse feel safe
Being present in the modern world is more difficult that it looks
Lao Tzu “If you are depressed you are living in the past if you are anxious you are living in the future and if you are peace you are living in the present
Anxiety and depression are about not being right here right now – and horses are like mental health practitioners
Bruce Anderson Natural Humanship – pressure to work out in the moment what’s going on and reach for your tools instead of your rules –
Lynn’s story of learning to be present under pressure
Horses really good at reading incongruent behavior where the inner and the outer don’t match
How humans can shut down the way horses shut down
What we humans do with uncomfortable feelings
The Traumas (big T) and traumas (little t) of our childhood that shape us
The masks we wear to cope with our traumas
What emotions we can and cannot show in our family
You cannot selectively suppress emotions – suppressing “lower” emotions also suppresses “higher” emotions
The addictions we have to cover up anxiety and other emotions we don’t want to feel
Some addictions are not obvious – it could be food, work, video games, technology, shopping
Replacing old habits with new habits
Competing in the World Equestrian Games 2018 (WEG) – and the pressures of performance plus the unexpected
The mindset training Warwick and his wife did with Jane Pike to prepare for WEG
The payoff for having a “safe word” to prevent negative thinking
The first time Warwick is in the zone – instead of his “asscheeks clamped so tight it’s not even funny”
The alternating nostril breathing technique
How he learned to defeat the inner voice that told him he did not belong there
The “itty bitty shitty committee”
How Warwick did an exercise to count judgmental thoughts - and had 21 before breakfast
When you start becoming aware of judgmental thoughts – you learn how many you have about yourself.
The distinction between guilt and shame and how to reframe your perspective once you become aware
Fan of Wayne Dyer quote “When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change
How horses read our minds -and stories that shore that up
In order to be present – we need to create a mental picture for what we are doing now
The way energy works with people and horses
Horses are masters at reading energy
Humans can learn to tune into energy
The value of soft focus to tune into a bigger picture
Cannot move away from something, you can only move towards something
The big blue tree vs the orange basketball
A critical shift in Warwick’s people watching in airports – may you be happy
Our judgments are like swallowing the poison pill and hoping the other person gets sick
Not wanting to be wrong
Not liking to be spoken to sternly about what he did wrong
Language can send us into the “blue tree” focus instead of the “orange basketball” focus
Horses are beautiful mirrors of our presence and energy – they are truthtellers
Warwick’s current personal journey of solving trauma
The connection between our thought patterns and our health
The space we need to be in to transform our patterns
The power of meditation in learning to manage thoughts
“If you can’t control what your mind thinks about when not on the horse, you really can’t control what your mind is thinking about when you are on the back of a 1000 pound animal that’s leaving town”
The difference between reaching for your tools instead of reaching for your rules (panic, fear, frustration, patterns, etc)
When you think you are doing it – you’re are not doing it
Why take a cold shower every morning