lynn-carnes

Hi, I'm Lynn Carnes. My official title is Executive Coach, focusing deeply on leadership.  My unofficial title is "Professional Unleasher", focusing on unleashing YOU. If you believe you have to choose between performing under pressure and having work life balance, you might be making a false choice.  What if you need BOTH in order to get what you want?

There are two ways to approach your career

The first is to focus on proving you belong. It’s a never-ending race to the top that can cost you a good quality of life and your relationships. You may very well succeed in getting exactly what you asked for: when money, status, and achievement are your primary focus, they will make you their prisoner.

The trappings of success can keep you trapped.

The second is to become a true learner and focus on how you can constantly improve. No matter the outcome, you will consistently become stronger and better prepared for this fast-changing world.

You are going to be uncomfortable either way. The focus on proving yourself creates a hole you can never fill. The discomfort from learning feels more productive and rewarding. You might even find peace of mind.

Instead of chasing empty goals, my hope for you is a journey to unleash the true spirit within you.

Here's my story.

Fighting to make it to the top then realizing I could have a great life - TODAY

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Lynn Carnes: The Delicate Art: Learn to Say "No" and Unleash Your Performance

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And before you go chasing that dream to the top, download this article:

“Five Reasons You Don’t Want to Be CEO”

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TEDx Talk

Raging Bitch to Engaging Coach

Oct 19, 2015

Steady Action

I heard someone this week state “Mood follows action.” It reminded me of a saying we often used when I was leading change projects in my former life in banking: “You can’t think your way into a new way of acting. You have to act your way into a new way of thinking.”

What’s Your Picture?

Today, I’m sharing an excerpt from my upcoming book Dancing the Tightrope, The Gift of Pressure, Uncertainty and Failure. The book chronicles my three-year journey of getting back on the horse after a bad accident. In the ensuing three years, what I thought would be a journey about learning to ride horses became instead a catalyst to raise my pressure threshold, to operate more in the present moment and yes, to get back on the horse.

Make like a virus – and adapt!

If we have learned anything over the last two years, it’s that we have less control than we would like to have. Think about it. How many times have you wished COVID 19 away? How many times have you wanted to get someone to take the same actions you have to address the pressures and uncertainties we are living with? How many times have you thought or said “When all of this is over, I’m going to…”?

Tis the Season…To Be Grateful

So far, this Christmas is not going as planned. This is our second year not going home to Texas to spend Christmas with family. For over 20 years, we’ve had a well-oiled machine for the season. Land at DFW Airport. Head straight to my brother’s house to bake cookies. Take a long walk with my sister-in-law to work off the calories from the cookies. Eat more cookies. Find and wrap all the presents shipped to their house. Eat more cookies. Run last minute errands. Eat more cookies. Ride horses at Marshall Creek. Eat more cookies. Go play at the local climbing gym. Eat more cookies. Make sure we have all the food for Christmas dinner. And on and on.

When Reality and Feelings are Miles Apart

When I was learning to ride my bike as a child, the huge moment came the day my Dad took off the training wheels. I would finally get to be like the other big kids! In my kid brain, I thought it would be a simple matter of getting on and doing what I had done so many times before, only like a grown up. Not even close. It took many falls and skinned knees until the moment of cheating occurred. I would get on, try to pedal and before the other foot could make the circle, the bike would fall over. I became acutely aware of just how much those training wheels had held me up.

It’s Part of the Process

When I was learning to ride my bike as a child, the huge moment came the day my Dad took off the training wheels. I would finally get to be like the other big kids! In my kid brain, I thought it would be a simple matter of getting on and doing what I had done so many times before, only like a grown up. Not even close. It took many falls and skinned knees until the moment of cheating occurred. I would get on, try to pedal and before the other foot could make the circle, the bike would fall over. I became acutely aware of just how much those training wheels had held me up.