Dancing the Tightrope; What Falling Off a Horse Taught Me About Embracing Pressure, Fear, and Uncertainty

In Lynn Carnes new book, find out how pressure, something we may not like, can become the catalyst to unleashing our most courageous self.

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Hi, I'm Lynn Carnes. My official title is Executive Coach, focusing deeply on leadership.  My unofficial title is "Professional Unleasher", focusing on unleashing YOU. If you believe you have to choose between performing under pressure and having work life balance, you might be making a false choice.  What if you need BOTH in order to get what you want?

Is pressure happening to you or for you?

Pressure takes our power away. You can either strive to keep pressure from crushing you  -  or you can allow it to elevate you. The first way is an outside–in approach that allows the external world to define you. It comes from the proving mindset that our modern world perpetuates. Following the “rules” puts the power in everyone else’s hands. Isn’t that convenient for them?

Does any of this happen to you?

  • Everyone you work with thinks their priorities should be YOUR priorities.
  • You’ve been told you are up for promotion, but it would help to have more ”executive presence.” (And what the heck is executive presence anyway?)
  • You feel powerless to delegate because people are making mistakes and you are not sure what to do about it.
  • Just about the time you are in a rhythm with your boss and co-workers, they change everything, and it feels like you are starting over.
  • The only way you will meet your objectives is to say no to people that matter…and you hate disappointing people or feeling like you can’t do it all
  • You feel like you must answer every email or phone call immediately, and yet doing so leaves you little or no time to get your primary work done
  • You believe that you could perform so much better if you just had less pressure.

If this kind of pressure defines your life, you might feel like you are slowly drowning.

It doesn’t have to be this way.

Pressure is the catalyst for your growth

The second way is an inside-out approach that keeps the power in your hands. We cannot escape pressure (as much as we would like to). However, we can make new choices under pressure that free us from our past. Pressure is not the problem; how we’ve been indoctrinated to handle pressure works against us. When you choose an improving mindset, it’s ok to make mistakes. Recovery from disequilibrium becomes more important than the end goal.

  • There is a way to say no to those who are sweeping you up into their game, including your boss.
  • You can develop executive presence, only not the way you’ve probably been taught.
  • Your glass ceiling is defined by your ability to handle mistakes made by others on your behalf – and you can raise that ceiling.
  • Change is a constant and co-workers, bosses and strategies will come and go; you can dance with all of it by learning how to reach for your “tools” instead of the “rules” made by others.
  • You can become the co-writer of your life.

You are going to be uncomfortable either way. The focus on proving yourself creates a hole you can never fill. The discomfort from cultivating an improving, learning mindset offers deeper rewards by charting your own path. You might even find peace of mind.

Instead of chasing empty goals, my hope for you is a journey of self-awareness, one which unleashes the true spirit within you.

Curious about how to make pressure work for you? Start by discovering the hidden rules that limit you. Download this free coaching exercise:

The Rule Breakers Guide to Success

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Here's my story.

Fighting to make it to the top then realizing I could have a great life - TODAY


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