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Better is better than perfect

When I was an adult, I went back to taking piano lessons. This was not some long-held dream or bucket list item. No, this was more of an accidental way to deal with my lack of patience.  We had an old player piano that was way out of tune. It was something my new husband brought into the marriage against my wishes. In fact, I’m pretty sure I stood at the front door trying to keep him from bringing this old dirty thing into the house. It was REALLY old and dusty – and out o […]

The Rules That Run Our Decisions

Do you ever think about the unwritten rules that run your life? It seems I discover a new one every day – an most of them are not of my making. I’m following someone else’s rules as if they are some kind of unbreakable law. The punishment? I never wanted to find out. Until I

Reading Signals-it’s harder than it looks

Driving down the road this week, I was listening to an interview, where Tim Ferriss asked Naval Ravikant what he thought was the most important skill of all. Naval’s answer was quick: Learning to learn. And the follow up to that was that the best way to learn was to read books. A LOT of books. While I

The Halfway Point

We are halfway through 2019! Reaching milestones like this can make you thrilled – or set you up for dread. It all depends on how you see it. Here’s one thing I’m sure of: in some ways you’ve done more, and other ways less than you hoped. If by chance you HAVE done everything on

Precious Time

Years ago, I was working on a huge project at a bank that touched thousands of people. My team was counting on me for daily decisions, my boss looked to me constantly to put out some raging fire, and my peers and I were desperately trying to row the boat in synch with each other. Every

We Have To Do Everything

My client Maddie was being completely run by her inner bully when we started working together. As we were reviewing what was her “plate” of work commitments, the list went from bad to simply unmanageable. One day, we were in a coaching session, working through what was most important so that Maddie (not her real name)

How To Say No And Free Yourself To Do What Really Matters

Here’s a newsflash: Nobody anywhere is doing it all, I don’t care what they say in the project status meeting or on their Facebook or Linkedin page. High level performers have mastered the art of saying no and they are constantly working on the clarity and strength to do it. The people you know playing at

No Really, Context Changes Everything

Last week my social media feed lit up with nurses sharing pictures of bloody operating rooms, the middle finger being raised, Sam Elliott smirking about someone being a special kind of stupid and talk about nurses playing cards. Nurses across the country were getting more outraged by the day. I started piecing together the reason for all the kerfuffle. Some woman in Washington State had said something about nurses playing cards all day. Wait, this woman was actually a legislator. &ld […]

Jen and I are splitting up

Working together as a Mother/Daughter team can be super difficult. If you have followed our podcast, you’ve heard some of our dramas. So when you saw that we are “splitting up”, you might make up the story it’s due to mother-daughter conflict. However, we have a better reason.Jen has started her own business.She is working with the loved ones of people caught in addiction. What Jen realized after talking to and working with hundreds of addicts and their families is the parents need o […]

The Seeds You Are Planting, Whether You Want To Or Not

Walking through Michael Sherrill’s Retrospective Exhibit at the Mint Museum in Charlotte, it was almost as if I was seeing several artists at work. The exhibit started with mugs – huge, beautiful mugs that I could only dream of making. Soon it moved to other large forms, with Asian and Native American influences. Just around the corner were some of the most exquisite – and in some cases, biggest – teapots I had ever seen. Then came some abstract and totally unique sha […]