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Reading List of 2023

In the last Coaching Digest, I started a new feature called Favorite of the Week, highlighting a favorite podcast, book, or article. As I was considering what to focus on this week, I realized that it’s a good time to share a reading list. I love reading other people’s lists. That’s how I find many […]

Believe In Your Space: 5 Principles for Clear Boundaries

A conversation that almost never comes up – at least directly – with my executive coaching clients is boundaries. Yet some of the most pervasive problems they face are violations of their boundaries. Someone talks over them in a meeting. Their boss storms into a crisis and starts barking commands without deep knowledge of the

Listening vs. Hearing

I was playing pickleball Sunday afternoon when suddenly I felt a pop near my right hip joint. Immediately, I turned my attention to controlling the now inevitable fall. My left knee took the brunt of it as I slid across the concrete. I decided to lay still for a while as I assessed the damage.

Three Buckets of Rules

Originally Published: June 30, 2022 Note: Today I’m sharing an excerpt from Chapter 2 of my new book, Dancing the Tightrope, What Falling Off a Horse Taught Me About Embracing Pressure, Fear and Uncertainty. In the following excerpt, we pick up the story soon after I fell off the horse. In this segment, I’m beginning

Breaking All the Rules

When I got my first job in banking, I soon realized that I had entered a world full of rules. Our hometown bank had a small lunchroom with unremarkable tables and stacking chairs scattered about. I was pinching pennies, so the this quickly became the place to eat my sack lunch. Next to the lunchroom

Living in the Land of the Imperfect

When I was in midst of editing Dancing the Tightrope, someone told me to hang on to the many stories that were landing on the cutting room floor. “Just because it didn’t belong in the book doesn’t mean it’s not a story worth telling,” they said. The following story is one of those that didn’t

Learning at the Speed of Light

Searching through my blogs last week for a post on resistance, I ran across one I wrote 18 months prior to the horseback riding accident that set me on a journey of a whole new understanding about operating effectively under pressure. Reading this piece was almost eerie. It was a little bit like entering another

Executive Presence

“Don’t shrink. Don’t puff up. Stand your sacred ground.” Brené Brown One of the most common requests I get as an executive coach is this: How do I develop “executive presence?” It’s one of the most elusive traits we can choose to develop. The distinctions are subtle. What one person calls gravitas, another might call arrogance. The difference

Rough Waters Make Good Sailors: 3 Years Later

Three years ago, I posted this blog as we entered into a new reality called COVID 19. At the time, we could have no idea what was ahead, whether the next 3 weeks, months or years. Looking back, I can see many things that were not nearly as bad as I feared at the time.

Being Helpful or is it Needy

This last week, Hannah Paquinzo, a podcast guest from last month, took me through a Human Design session. She had mentioned it in the podcast, and I was curious. I’ve learned that self-awareness is not that easy to come by. We humans are complex. Over the years, I’ve done everything from the Herrmann Brain Dominance