Lynn Carnes

Believe In Your Space: 5 Principles for Clear Boundaries

A conversation that almost never comes up – at least directly – with my executive coaching clients is boundaries. Yet some of the most pervasive problems they face are violations of their boundaries. Someone talks over them in a meeting. Their boss storms into a crisis and starts barking commands without deep knowledge of the

Listening vs. Hearing

I was playing pickleball Sunday afternoon when suddenly I felt a pop near my right hip joint. Immediately, I turned my attention to controlling the now inevitable fall. My left knee took the brunt of it as I slid across the concrete. I decided to lay still for a while as I assessed the damage.

Three Buckets of Rules

Originally Published: June 30, 2022 Note: Today I’m sharing an excerpt from Chapter 2 of my new book, Dancing the Tightrope, What Falling Off a Horse Taught Me About Embracing Pressure, Fear and Uncertainty. In the following excerpt, we pick up the story soon after I fell off the horse. In this segment, I’m beginning

Breaking All the Rules

When I got my first job in banking, I soon realized that I had entered a world full of rules. Our hometown bank had a small lunchroom with unremarkable tables and stacking chairs scattered about. I was pinching pennies, so the this quickly became the place to eat my sack lunch. Next to the lunchroom